• AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works
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    my mother once told me my since of justice was my biggest flaw. 15 years later and I get what she meant but what a thing to tell a 10 year old lol

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      Probably better to describe it as “fairness”. Maybe even “stubbornness” The problem with justice/fairness is that it is ultimately subjective. And a 10-year-old’s view of fairness is often divorced from principles of personal safety or propriety.

      You’ll see this problem with adult libertarians all the time. Everything from seat belts to sales taxes to dress codes intrude on their sense of fairness, largely because they’ve ingested enormous volumes of propaganda. The real joke of it is when the term “social justice” impugnes your sense of personal justice. Same with the social conservatives who get up in arms over “illegal” immigration and desegregation, environmental regulations and speed limits, prohibitions on state sanctioned religious education, and age limits on who you can marry.

      A sense of justice is a very plastic (especially at a young age) and perspective oriented. Wars have been fought and rivers of blood spilled over a population’s conviction of their own righteousness.

  • Strider@lemmy.world
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    Yep. Rules are rules. Rules are important for social living together.

    BMW drivers not signaling should get their car taken away.

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    I’m autistic because I want people to follow the written rules of society?

    Don’t fucking run red lights and do stop for pedestrians is pretty much all I ask, but that’s too much in the small city I live in for at least a few people every day.

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      Unironocally yes.

      The point is the average person doesn’t give a shit. That’s the baseline. It’s why without enforcement, no one follows rules detrimental to themselves. It’s why going 50 in a 50 is considered ridiculous.

      The fact that it even pisses you off enough to write that out is evidence enough lol. Maybe. Not the one thing by itself…

      Source: Late diagnosed adhd, probably autistic, said the same kind of things as you before I realized I’m just… not typical

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        The point is the average person doesn’t give a shit.

        Average people give an average shit. They tend to see what comes close to goring their own ox and ignore what’s out of view.

        It’s why going 50 in a 50 is considered ridiculous.

        When you’re on an empty road, it feels ridiculous to go 50 in a 50 because nobody is in your way.

        When it’s bumper to bumper traffic, it feels ridiculous to go 50 in a 50 because you’d immediately collide with the car in front of you.

        When everyone else is going 50, it feels sensible to keep up with the herd, even when a sign indicates a different speed is more appropriate.

        Ignoring the circumstances in favor of the written rule isn’t virtuous on its face. Sometimes the rules are wrong and you need to use your own judgement. Sometimes the rules are there for reasons that go deeper than their most literal interpretation.

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    Yea … Im gonna argue that a great deal of the population (in the US) just lacks morals.

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      No, it’s a well-documented phenomenon called Justice Sensitivity. It can even be graded on a scale, like any other symptom of ADHD or autism. It is part of the diagnostic criteria.

      Basically, lots of ADHD/autistic people tend to dislike rules, feeling like they’re restrictive for no reason… Unless they know why the rule exists. But if they know why it exists, they often tend to treat the rule as gospel, and get extremely angry and/or resentful when others don’t follow the rule. They’ll have a strong urge to correct perceived injustices, even if the injustice was relatively small or benign. “Life isn’t fair” is something that many people with ADHD/autism hear a lot, because it’s often the go-to response from neurotypicals whenever they start complaining about injustice. There’s a reason people with ADHD and autism disproportionately work as activists.

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    I use the word righteous. And I don’t think it is that we are more righteous. I think we just have trouble getting over it. Which is a general aspect of many other things that cause issues for us.

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      I’d also posit my unqualified opinion1 too: I think it’s the idea that the rules are inconsistent. You try to follow a system that everyone says is “blind” and impartial, only to see it just got Lasik and is very, very partial to particular people. The dissonance between experiencing injustice and insistent claims that the civilized world is fair.

      If all cultures codified that “money buys clemency”, there’d be a lot fewer outbursts about how unfair things are.

      1 I’m probably not autistic, just have a lot of autistic friends.

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    Ah yes. Another episode of the ‘neurodivergent people are actually normal and it’s neurotypical people who are weird’ series.

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      I mean, it could be argued that neurotypicals are simply the most cohesive minority. They only account for ~40% of people, because ~60% have some sort of mental disorder. The only reason neurotypicals are the default are because they’re the largest cohesive and exclusive group. If it were a Venn diagram, 60% would be a bunch of smaller (often overlapping) circles, while the remaining 40% would be off to the side in its own circle.

      So if you’re going to make assumptions about someone you just met, (and we all make assumptions. That’s how socializing works), it makes sense to assume that the person is probably in the largest group that doesn’t overlap with any of the other groups. So “neurotypical” is used as the default until we know more about the person. Not because they’re the majority, but simply because the 40% group is the easiest, most straightforward, least messy assumption to make.

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      Nah. Perceived injustice can motivate a variety of feelings and behaviors. Not all of them helpful. Not all of them good (B. Pine, C. White, M. Eisenhardt, et al).

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    Psychiatrist and author William W. Dodson, MD, estimates that by age 12, children who have ADHD receive 20,000 more negative messages from parents, teachers, and other adults than their friends and siblings who do not have ADHD.

    Maybe this is part of it. ASD/ADHD people being corrected so many times about doing things “wrong” that they have been “trained” to point out or note things that are incorrect. And also, maybe a reason why we get so incredibly frustrated when NT let things slide for other NT people that we feel we’d get in trouble for. We don’t fit the vibe that NT in-group runs on.

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    Probably what led me to being vegan. I can’t stand the hypocrisy of some animals deserving compassion and others not. I also work for a company in sustainability/energy transition, and the amount of people who “care” about sustainability and the environment and yet still drool when they see a steak is too high.

    I’m vegan, btw.

  • 🦄🦄🦄@feddit.org
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    100%. Injustice causes me physical pain, especially if the injustice is then justified based on irrational arguments or I can tell that the argument is made in bad faith. Anti-Veganism would be an example that has caused me issues before.

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      For me it’s cops, I get a damn near aneurysm every time I hear ‘they’re not all like that’. Have we learnt nothing?!?

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    It’s really interesting reading the replies. A lot seem to be talking about “justice and fairness” like it means “following all rules always” but personally, I don’t give a fuck about the rules. I want you to be kind.

    cocks gun with intent

    I SAID BE KIND TO EACH OTHER, YOU FUCKING IDIOTS.

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      Viscerally.

      Well, kinda a combination of all of it, but when people are being greedy, selfish, ass holes instead of kind and fair and just trying to make the world or community a better place for everyone in it rather than just themselves or those they know there is an unyielding rage that begins to stir wants to MAKE them be fair and kind.

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    Following rules generally for me. There is a parking lot near me where people insist on parking the wrong way (people park opposite the way if traffic on both side of the lane way think parking the wrong way on a one way street) and it makes me so angry every time I shop in the area. I even tried to mention it in a community Facebook group and was told to shut up and mind my own buisness

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      I feel this. My job is surrounded by one-way streets, with angled back-in parking everywhere. So you don’t even need to parallel park, you just back into the spots to park, and then pull straight out (matching the direction of traffic on the one-way street) when you leave. It’s literally all the best parts of parallel parking, with none of the downsides.

      We regularly have people pull u-turns on the one-way streets to park nose-in. No amount of signs have helped, because you can’t make people read. It’s a ticketable offense, (same as if you had parallel parked facing the wrong direction on a one-way street) and the local PD regularly makes sweeps every few hours to check… And they’ll easily ticket 10-20 people on busy days. There have even been instances where the cop was standing there writing a ticket for it, when someone pulled in right next to them. And then they’d argue with the cop that they should be allowed to park however they want.

      At first, seeing people swing super wide to pull into the spots would piss me off. Then for a while it was amusing, because I knew I’d get to see them rage about the ticket on their windshield while I sit in my office. But now it’s just disappointing. Like every time I see it, I lose a little more faith in humanity. The old joke about “make something idiot-proof and they’ll invent a better idiot” always rings true.

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      My nephew is autistic, and when he was little (and his parents were basically in denial about it) he kept getting kicked out of schools because he’d punch kids that change the rules in the middle of a game. They ended up having to home school him