WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]

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Cake day: December 31st, 2023

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  • I’ve had general anesthesia 5 times (3-4 for surgeries) and was given ketamine for another procedure (in a vain attempt to not need the 3rd surgery). None of them were bad. The one time I requested not to use gen anesthesia but they insisted it was required, they were at least light on the dosing, so I was functional quickly and back to normal within a few hours of that.

    Most of the times, my parents were there as I recovered from the anesthesia and never did I say anything I didn’t want to say (the ketamine and most recent gen anesthesia were both after I realized I was trans and hadn’t told my parents yet, but one of them had a tendency to ask prodding questions… And post-anesthesia was no exception).

    I haven’t had any issues with any particular problems with my surgeries. Some of my other preexisting medical conditions may have caused some inconvenience for the doctors/nurses, but those are just my normal problems.







  • My mom has gotten worse over the years, especially since retiring. She used to refuse to support republicans solely because of LGBT+ issues despite otherwise mostly agreeing with them, but I think she may have voted for trump in the most recent election. She mostly buys into the “republicans = good for stock market” and “democrats = steal all your money” meme rather than being a true believer at least. She’ll also repeat like obviously dog-whistle-laden talking points, but I don’t think she really realized how racist they are and how they don’t actually fit into her broader beliefs.

    Also, she may struggle a lot with internalized transphobia, so honestly I feel far worse for her than I do for myself. Most of the time she tries to be transphobic to me (which she doesn’t do often), she ends up being really affirming on accident and then says she’d like to transition the other way.

    My other mom is more of the traditional MAGA type. Overtly racist (but doesn’t say the n-word, so she doesn’t think she’s racist). OTOH, I don’t think I’ve ever heard her be transphobic and she’s one of the first people to ask me if I considered myself trans.


  • Plus side of having LGBT parents is sometimes family gatherings at their place is just the queer family members, some of which don’t show up to the larger family gatherings. Its not always the case though and my parents are MAGA lesbians, but most of the rest of the family are further right than my parents and them hosting keeps away the worst of the worst.


  • I’m the ND that causes most of the branching, upon branching, upon branching but also usually the one to piece the conversation chain back together when we inevitably are both confused how we ended up at the current topic. Since I’m the one who caused the branching in the first place, it would be really difficult for the other person to piece it together.