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  • Only good way to get a house by age 30 is to become a plumber, electrician or other type of job that pays well with minimal study and save up while living at parents or sharing a flat with 3 mates.

    Then you need to save heavily and invest in stocks and/or bonds with the saved money so you can beat inflation. With around 30k saved per year it’s possible to get pretty early onto the property ladder.

    Going to college and living somewhere in NYC for example will get you nowhere close to 30k a year with student debt and if you have a kid you’re screwed.








  • I live in Iceland and we try to predict volcanic activity all the time and it’s off by weeks or months. To be fair, that’s a blink of an eye on a geological scale so it’s pretty accurate but the nature of the problem is that you have so many forces that all interact with each other.

    It’s pretty similar to “how far can you tip the chair back before it falls” but we don’t know the size, weight and shape of the chair really well. You just need one fracture in the rock from previous earthquake to throw all the calculations off.

    I don’t know the context of the post but I imagine it’s media related, like a seismologist saying “could be as soon as tomorrow” and the journalist just saying “earthquake tomorrow”. Also seismologist don’t shut up is true.






  • You know, my best trick for social things is to do structured activities such as board games or as exercise class. In these situations the topic and activity is already decided and I feel like it removes a lot of the gap between neurotypicals and me.

    It does sound like you have some work ahead of you. It’s unfortunate that autistic people need a lot more work to be able to communicate with most of society but it pays off.

    Unmasking helps a lot, the outward difference is that you look eccentric instead of uncanny valley and it costs waaaay less energy.

    Also don’t try to simplify the way you think about yourself. “You don’t shut up” doesn’t have to be a bad thing if people are participating, some people enjoy it when I talk for 10m about sunblock and how the Australians have the best regulations for them.

    I’m very curious about pretty much everything and I’m shit at conversations but I can keep people talking about themselves and their interests for a long time by just asking them questions and rephrasing with “so it’s like when you” or something. Neurotypicals just loooove talking, especially about themselves and you showing interest makes them like you. People say I’m fun and nice to hang around with but in my opinion I’m incredibly dull, speak in monotone and mostly just don’t because I like not talking.

    Another fun point, I think of autistic people as normal and everyone else as weird. When I talk to autistic people it’s like a breath of fresh air.

    Now that you pretty much found out you’re autistic you can start to look into how other autistic people cope and thrive in society. Good luck out there!





  • Caveman@lemmy.worldtoAutism@lemmy.worldSo this happened.
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    I personally think you have autism. Autistic people are somehow on the same wavelength and most of the people I know that are autistic I find conversation flows a lot better.

    The tricky part of diagnosing autism is that it’s an rich internal experience that only you can properly assess. An expert would always be at a disadvantage this way compared to self diagnosis.

    Problem with self diagnosis is that neurotypicals tend to answer questionnaires as if each question is a loose criteria but autistic people will consider each question as a strict criteria.

    Example: “I have trouble maintaining eye contact”.

    NT: I look away sometimes when I get distracted. 2/5

    ASD: Not really, it’s just easier to not look at people. 2/5?

    I personally don’t have trouble maintaining eye contact but I pretty much can’t process what the person is saying then. If they look away I get 80-90% and if I look away it’s 100%. A better answer to that question in my case is 3-4/5 since I have trouble with eye contact.

    Here are the tests on a website made by autists for autists. After these you can look at some result distributions to see where you land. For example, if you score >95% of NTs on the AQ it’s almost guaranteed that you’re autistic.

    https://embrace-autism.com/autism-tests/