An old friend/aquaintance I’ve not spoken to in a few years popped up recently and we got chatting a little over text. In the few years since we spoke she’s had two babies by two different guys. They’re ~6 months and ~2-3 years.
She said that we should get coffee and catch up properly, and I was sort of down, although I’m not really that enthusiastic about catching up with someone I’ve frankly not thought about in a few years. But hey, it’s something to do, and it might be interesting. So I suggested a coffee shop near her and asked if she’d be able to get time away from the kids, but she said that no, she’d have to bring the kids along.
I don’t want to be a dick but I’m really not interested in sitting in a coffee shop with two babies. They’re mostly just going to be the focus of the occasion because they need constant attention, and I don’t really like kids in general. And, if they cry or act up and attract attention I will hate that.
AITA? How do I tell her I’m really not interested in sitting with her babies for an afternoon?
I think you’d be an asshole for accepting an invite to visit with someone you clearly don’t care about anymore who also now has infant/children who you don’t want to see.
Flavor text, or judgemental? If you disapprove of her life choices possibly quite strongly, then yes please don’t bother this woman.
Anyways, you won’t an asshole if you just let that already dead friendship stay dead. I dislike children enough to seek out sterilization, so I get it.
Seek out like-minded friends instead and you’ll be all good.
I can only keep up the charade around my niece and nephew for our bi-monthly supper visits. I’m a good uncle for ~6-12 hours a month lol that’s my limit.