An old friend/aquaintance I’ve not spoken to in a few years popped up recently and we got chatting a little over text. In the few years since we spoke she’s had two babies by two different guys. They’re ~6 months and ~2-3 years.

She said that we should get coffee and catch up properly, and I was sort of down, although I’m not really that enthusiastic about catching up with someone I’ve frankly not thought about in a few years. But hey, it’s something to do, and it might be interesting. So I suggested a coffee shop near her and asked if she’d be able to get time away from the kids, but she said that no, she’d have to bring the kids along.

I don’t want to be a dick but I’m really not interested in sitting in a coffee shop with two babies. They’re mostly just going to be the focus of the occasion because they need constant attention, and I don’t really like kids in general. And, if they cry or act up and attract attention I will hate that.

AITA? How do I tell her I’m really not interested in sitting with her babies for an afternoon?

  • Dagwood222@lemm.ee
    195·
    3 days ago

    She’s handling two kids under five years old?

    You’re not ‘showing up for coffee’ you’re providing a needed mental health break.

    • Two_Hangmen@midwest.social
      55·
      3 days ago

      Exactly this. People will have kids then expect other people to help out because “it takes a village”. Fuck that, figure out who’s willing to be in your village, THEN have kids.

      • pahlimur@lemmy.world
        133·
        3 days ago

        I’m having a hard time understanding how self centered some people are. You can be uncomfortable with their kids and still enjoy their company.

        I don’t know a single parent who “figures out their village” before having kids. If anything, having kids sheds the selfish dipshits like you.

        • Two_Hangmen@midwest.social
          25·
          3 days ago

          You don’t know anyone who figures out their village before having kids…but childfree people are the selfish ones. Yeah, that makes sense.

          • pahlimur@lemmy.world
            111·
            3 days ago

            Childfree people aren’t selfish. People who hate children for existing are though. No one is forcing you to have kids. False victim hood bullshit.