• far_university1990@reddthat.com
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    2 days ago

    but the alternative is just assuming every man is a piece of shit.

    If bad experience so common that community exist, maybe that not bad solution. Always take second person to date, always take self defense thing, etc.

    Men not known as creep before date by someone in community or maybe friend. Always take precaution could protect against creep even if unknown man.

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      2 days ago

      I just dont date men, don’t smile around men unless it’s mean or im wearing a mask, don’t compliment men even on innocuous things unless they’re like half my age or younger, and yeah, i think about exits a lot.

      This is a superior solution, because it actially works and does not make me a target for that garbage gender’s bullshit.

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          1 day ago

          Nope. It’s how i deal.

          If i compliment a man, it won’t stop hitting on me until i get violent or gross. I’m not even that pretty. Maybe a global 6/10, and i live in souyhern california, so I’m a local 3.

          If a man sees me smile it might decide that was flirting, so i only smile in cases where it’s very very clearly not. Then I’ll have to lose it before anything bad happens, do things like hop off a bus just before the doors close (dick move to the driver), climb something (I’m not young, do like nice clothes), or do a ‘frogger’ larp, which is only about half as dangerpus as letting it follow me home¹.

          And i absolutely don’t date them; im not cursed to have no other option sexually, so why the fuck would i defile myself with that one?

          The exits thing is mixed with other stuff, various ptsd sources, but i expect I’d have put it together just existing around so many monsters like that.

          ¹which is wild. Again; im not particularly beautiful. About half of all houses contain a woman. This should not be a danger, and yet i regularly need to get all cloak and dagger to deal with almost half the population! Because of course none of them understand “no”! Not when a woman says it!