I think the biggest change is when I stopped giving a shit. My tolerance level dropped.
Interesting enough, when I stopped caring about work, my work started promoting me. It was almost exactly like the movie “Office Space”.
Pffft, how I know I’m an adult:
- I gained 20 lbs, bucked the fuck up and lost it in 4 months
- I sleep, refreshed because I actually get my full night’s worth in, and go have fun
- My back, knees, elbows, feet, and hands hurt, because I overuse them, so I go get in the bath and soak the aches away and get up and out ready to do some more
- Comfort has always been more important than style
- Spatulas are so last year; I’m getting nerdy about my glass tupperware stuff
- Chores are for bores… ah fuck, I can’t twist this one
- College students are fun to talk to, and easy to push into certain conversation flows that get them out of my hair
- Life is good; go get a hobby that you actually enjoy
Spatulas are so last year; I’m getting nerdy about my glass tupperware stuff
Talk to me when you’re ready for wood plates.
Mature age student here where my classmates are half my age:
The ones who have authority/inferiority complexes are awful but it’s so easy to just push them aside. For the most part, they’re inquisitive and sweet, and i adore them.
I get it’s a joke but, dude, being an adult is knowing how to look after yourself both physically and mentally. Also, I don’t have a favourite spatula; it’s a very expensive commercial grade pot. I love that thing.
I know this is a joke, but I really dislike these negative characterizations of adulthood, especially because they seem to just suggest that we should be complacent with this kind of dissatisfaction and discomfort as if it’s a intrinsic part of aging. I mean sure, maybe by the time you’re 70 a lot of this is unavoidable, but that’s far past being an adult. I often hear young people half-jokingly say that they may as well die by the time they turn 30. Interestingly, the same 30 to 50-year-olds who love to complain about teenagers dreading getting older are the same people who make them dread it by complaining about it. None of this stuff is really necessary to getting older, and again, I do understand that this is partially a joke, but I don’t know…
This isn’t being an adult. This is just taking bad care of yourself, physically and mentally. If you’ve always taken bad care of yourself, then it’ll start to pile up by the time you’re an adult. If you’ve always taken good care of yourself, that’ll also start to pile up by the time you’re an adult.
1000%. I’m currently ending an 8½ year relationship over this: When we met we were both depressed, both bought into this mindset that we were pairing up for an eternal winter. As we’ve transitioned to our mid thirties, I got help and got back up, while they didn’t. And as much as you want to be there for someone, you can’t make someone change when they don’t want to. But this mindset is infectious, and it ruins lives.
I think there’s a specific transition period that adults that didn’t have good habits go through. And it takes time for them to learn how to take care of their adult mind and body.
The unhealthy habits (drinking, eating badly, not sleeping enough, being stationary etc.) are not as easily recoverable anymore, but people are still pushing themselves thinking they have the same vitality. Then it leads to the “everything sucks now” mentality. Give people some time to figure it out.
Like the transition period between summer and fall, everyone’s a bit confused for a bit on what to wear to keep themselves warm.
While I agree broadly with what you are saying, your comment ignores the externalities that society puts upon people that causes a lot of these feelings/habits/behaviours.
We still should do our best to not be this defeated. We should absolutely do our best to take care of ourselves mentally and physically, but for many this is far easier said than done because of the externalities.
Actually, I was told that everybody hurts, and everybody cries
Sometimes everything is wrong.
I do have a favorite series of spatulas. I won’t mention the company cause I don’t want to advertise but they are excellent silicone spatulas. I have 3 of them, each different shapes and sizes (and colors :3). Ah it so excellent
We’re not good enough for your secret spatula club? Spill the details
spoiler
Thanks! Those do look nice.
Out of curiosity, why silicone? I have one spatula from silicone, but I always reach for the wooden ones - feels more right to me?
Silicone has some bend to it. Wood doesn’t. With silicone I can easily scrape the sides of mixing bowls and such.
I like silicone for eggs.
Your describtion sounds like old age + depression
old age=depression. There’s absolutely nothing that isn’t depressing about aging. I’ve watched my parents age to almost 100 and it’s something that makes me want to blow out my brains daily.
Where’s the anti-aging research? Can we stop with the pro-aging propaganda?
https://www.lifespan.io/annual-reports/
It’s too bad the field has so much snake oil.
Unfortunately, anti aging is exercise(even light calisthenics like yoga and walking outside) , eating healthy(preferably as vegetarian as possible for heart health) , never stop learning and socializing.
Pro aging is modern living: sedentary, eating highly processed foods, being a shut in just consuming content.
From my experience, both are positive feed back loops. Being sedentary makes you tired. You are too tired to cook, so you eat what’s easy. It’s easier to stay home than going out. You dont sleep well from stress so you’re tired all day, over eating, and drinking as much caffeine as you’re body can handle.
Exercise gives you energy, better mood, reduces stress, helps you sleep better, which means you’re more likely to cook healthy, go out and socialize etc, etc.
It sucks because there’s inertia and, even when I was working out 3 or 4 times a week, I never felt happy about going to exercise until about halfway through or coming home.
I work in a hospital and see people with really bad quality of life. I know that obviously people in hospitals are sick, but with dementia in their 50s and 60 year olds that are just strong enough to walk to the bathroom with assistance I hope I die before any serious problems come up.
Why must life be so hard!
(preferably as vegetarian as possible for heart health)
If I remember this study correctly, that benefit was offset by increased chance of stroke.
As always, the best overall diet is low-processed food, moderation of portion size, preferring local season-appropriate vegetables, fish and meats and low plant-based oil intake.
Sounds like you still confuse old age with depression. My family doesn’t suffer from old age depression.
I’m not confusing anything. If you’re old, you have every reason to be depressed. If you’re depressed it doesn’t mean you’re old.
If you aren’t depressed about losing everything as you age, you have Middle Aged Delusional Syndrome or something even worse.
Constantly thinking of finances
- how much is it?
- do I need it?
- can I afford it?
- should I just forget about it? … yeah forget about it
Don’t forget
- Why did I buy this?
Closely followed by:
- Why didn’t I buy this earlier? This is such a time save/practical thing/now I really need it but its costs are tripled!
Followed by:
This has been in this closet and hasn’t been used for 10 years.
I better hold on to it. I might need it.
You weren’t supposed to buy and then forget it. You were supposed to forget about it before buying.
This is really more about financial stress rather than adulthood. I was constantly on the verge of being broke until I became an adult and started working and (eventually) got a well paid job. Somewhat pedantic, I know, but financial stress is not an integral part of adulthood.
I have enough that I shouldn’t have to worry. The issue is that I grew up poor so not having enough is a constant worry that has followed me all my life.
It’s not thinking of finances because you don’t have enough … it’s thinking of finances because you want to be more responsible and thoughtful of how you use your money.
I have a friend who joked with me and said … ‘You aren’t cheap … you’re frugal’
I don’t understand the joke part. That’s sound very normal to me.
In North America … being called ‘cheap’ is almost an insult as if to suggest someone is always tight with their money or doesn’t want to pay for things or constantly never wants to pay full price for things
Being ‘frugal’ is more open meaning that just means someone wants to save money and be mindful of their spending.
• do I need it?
Start there. If it’s not clearly a no, repeat multiple times over several weeks and one can quickly learn when to spent time thinking about these things.
A neat trick is to wait ten minutes … or walk away from something and go back to it later. If you truly need it, you’ll still want it. If you didn’t need it, you’ll forget about it.
Being an adult doesn’t mean you’re only entitled to buy stuff you need. Don’t forget to treat yourself or others once in a while if you can afford it and it’s something you really want.
The spatula one hits home.
I had people over for thanksgiving and we had a conversation about my silicone spatula set and how much I like it. That felt more adult than a conversation about escrow.For me it’s more about some spatulas having more comfortable shapes.
Unfortunately my ex hit me with my favourite one and broke it against my arm. That might honestly be the one thing I’ll never forgive her, in the midst of all kinds of persistent abuse.
The “everything hurts” part comes a lot later if you don’t live a sedentary lifestyle.
Even with an office job, you have at least 8 hours a day when you’re not forced to sit on a chair or sleeping. Use them!You don’t have to sit down at an office job either. Standing desks are great for staying more active IMHO.
We’re getting adjustable desks next year. Can’t wait!
Nice. We got convertible desks a few years ago. It’s done wonders for my weight management. My job requires me to step away from the computer frequently, and the ability to stand most of the work day just makes things feel easier.
Well I wish the pay was better this is why I like having a cooking job. Literally busy moving all day. I don’t even have to exercise outside of work. Though I do go on a lot of bike rides.
That’s the only thing that hasn’t happened to me yet, but I see it in my cohort. I used to blame people for not being active enough, but now I realize we’re all just biological beings whose job is to reproduce, ensure offspring survival, then everything after that, there’s no real biological reason for it so nothing drives longer useful lifespan.
Oh well.
Yeah, many people have chronic illnesses that either cause pain or drain energy, and it becomes hard or impossible to remain active and pain-free. Ever since developing mine in late 20s, I’m far less judgemental and more understanding of people’s situations.
Coming on 34 and i feel stronger than ever. Im an ectomorph and exercise for an hour every day though. I reckon exercise is the answer if you can do it!
It’s crazy how you hurt less if you exercise all the time
Yeah begrudgingly I stared exercising last year (mid thirties too) and damn if I don’t feel much much better. Easier to get around, less creaks and groans, less heartburn, it does make me feel better. I hate doing it though
Threw my back out while unloading the dishwasher, while listening to quietly playing triphop, and wearing my comfy cardigan.
I feel like this could be turned into a haiku:
I threw my back out
while loading the dishwasher
wearing my sweater
us as old fucks will no doubt be so much cooler than any old fucks before us. blasting the coolest musics, replaying the best video games, sneaking weed into everything.
no, no bias here
That sounds like me…
Don’t do this. I’m 19 and check most of those boxes.
This, too, hurts.
I’m in this picture and I don’t like it
At least half of that list applied to me when I was like 16.
They make emo spatulas?
“This one’s black, like my soul”
