Hello, Im kind of new here and trying to get used to Lemmy and I was wondering about if this is true since I am considering donating on this site to support alternative projects but wanted to hear other users before doing so. That being said, what have been your experiences?
Thanks for answering.
I’m completely with you on the .ml and the phobias things, but I think your comments about what gay guys wear is an obviously crass comment, that might get a laugh in your friendship group after some specific experience, but I think you should absolutely know not to post it as a general comment out of politeness if nothing else.
The .ml mods take offence at anything even mildly critical of Russia, China or North Korea (or communism of course): You’re not the asshole, they are.
The people taking offence at you asking them to be considerate and put phobia triggers behind spoilers: You’re not the asshole, they are.
The people taking offence at you apparently “jokingly” calling a whole category of people out for their clothing choices while you apparently socially enforce gender stereotypes, in a space designed as a safe space for the frequently bullied, frequently misgendered, frequently clothing criticised trans community? I’m afraid this time, you are the asshole, and an apology and retraction would have been better than being defensive, doubling down and arguing that they ought not to have taken offence.
Who were you criticising or joking about each time?
Authoritarian regimes? Nasty. OK to criticise.
People triggering phobias? Nasty. OK to criticise.
Gay people wearing non gender conforming clothes? Not nasty, just different. Not OK to criticise. Not OK to joke about. Gay folk and trans folk have had everything about them criticised and made fun of their whole lives. It was always going to land badly.
Not that you asked for my opinion, and sorry to butt in, but that’s what I think.