Hello, Im kind of new here and trying to get used to Lemmy and I was wondering about if this is true since I am considering donating on this site to support alternative projects but wanted to hear other users before doing so. That being said, what have been your experiences?
As I said elsewhere, it would be unusual for a vast number of folk to not contain annoying or argumentative people, but I worry about tarring a whole category by always bringing up examples of bad behaviour and mentioning the category as part of it.
For example: “There was this manager shouting at all the women that they needed to keep in shape to impress the customers, but he was obviously badly unfit and overweight and dressed really shabbily.” OK story. But “Fat middle aged guys who don’t lift a finger to try to live healthily can be so annoying when they dress badly and then shout at women that they sold keep in shape and to impress clients.” Not OK, makes it about the category of people.
But, clearly I wasn’t there and I didn’t know that you were criticising a drawing!
It sounds like you had a bad experience and whilst I very much don’t want to generalise from it, I also don’t want to belittle it.
Precisely, so let’s not assume things and speak in ways that try to pin it on me. “You should’ve apologized and backed down” is rewarding their shitty behavior.
I get your point about avoiding generalizations, but I wouldn’t call it a category. This is a pattern of behavior from people who think they’re standing up for someone or something, but end up being straight-up toxic by taking social justice to extremes. I’ve even seen it in person, where some asshole crashed our LGBT+ community group because they started accusing another guy of saying something racist when it wasn’t the case. It was needless drama all around because someone decided to be the superhero and save imaginary people.