• Lumidaub@feddit.org
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    6 hours ago

    You can’t say ‘I’m not victim-blaming but she should have known better’.

    And I didn’t.

    You’ve come into this thread to say ‘she should have known better’.

    I didn’t.

    Do you think they should refrain as well?

    They need to know that bad shit can happen to them if they do, that’s it.

    What I did was put “even if they should have known better” in quotation marks, just like I did just now, because that’s what people MIGHT say about victims and I don’t agree with it. I honestly don’t know how I could’ve made that clearer without straying even further from the original point.

    • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      6 hours ago

      You’ve come into this thread to say ‘she should have known better’.

      I didn’t.

      You’re right, my mistake, you said:

      You can choose settings that make your likeness private, or open to just your friends — but I figured, why not?

      Because this is the internet?

      She basically said “take my face, do whatever with it” and now seems surprised that people did whatever with it to get their rocks off.

      Which is basically saying ‘she should have known better’ but with extra steps.

      It doesn’t actually work if you say stuff that is victim-blaming but add a little disclaimer that says “I’m not victim-blaming”. Like I said, you’re thiiiis 🤏 close to getting it.