I don’t know if penis.gay exists, but it should. Think about it. If you’re a gay dude, and you’re out and proud, what better way to find other gay dudes who are also out and proud?
I don’t know how social interaction works with finding other like minded gay guys, but do you know how thrilled straight men would be if women had a horny.drippingpussy instance that they used when they wanted sex?
I think part of the problem with guys trying to find sex, is chasing it from people who are in no way interested. So if Tom flirts with Sally, but Sally is asexual, then Tom has a 0% succsess potential if he hits on her at the bar. But he doesn’t know that. So after he gets rejected, now he feels bad about himself. Nobody likes getting rejected.
But if Tom went on nsfwlemmy, and found [email protected] then he would know that she’s just like a Buffalo NY city street in December. Ready to be plowed.
And for gay guys, penis.gay would let them identify to each other that they’re all like minded, and judgement free.
Although as I think about this, at least in America, it may not be the best idea, because now ICE is essentially becoming the S.S. and using social media activity to track “undesirables”. And I don’t trust the republicans to be open minded and empathetic. We all know what the nazis did with gay people in the 30s/40s.
So I guess it would be one of those things that would be great in a perfect world…but because we live in this reality, we can’t have nice things.
Wow, it’s like a blast from the past. It looks like the kind of personal webpage you’d stumble across back in 2000. The only thing missing is music that auto plays when the page loads (thank goodness.)
I think part of the problem with guys trying to find sex, is chasing it from people who are in no way interested. So if Tom flirts with Sally, but Sally is asexual, then Tom has a 0% succsess potential if he hits on her at the bar. But he doesn’t know that. So after he gets rejected, now he feels bad about himself. Nobody likes getting rejected.
But if Tom went on nsfwlemmy, and found [email protected] then he would know that she’s just like a Buffalo NY city street in December. Ready to be plowed.
Idk, that sounds like the type of username some aces I know would use. Granted, they’re also the type who’d love to be spitroasted…
A lot if horny people like the idea of joining the LGBT club and ironically found the Asexual label the easiest one to morph to their desires.
So now a lot of people online will say asexuals are still very much sexual, and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.
No, that’s bigoted nonsense. Trans people had to suffer well meaning cis people crying about “transtrenders” in the 10s and I guess aces have to deal with this too now.
Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. Attraction is like hunger. Some people like to eat sweets even when they’re not hungry, some people don’t. The words for that are “sex positive ace” and “sex repulsed ace”.
Asexuality is also an umbrella. There’s demisexuals, grey aces, and others under the umbrella.
Also also, there’s aces who are into kink, but not genitals.
“and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.”
Thanks for being among them. This is why I don’t use that descriptor online anymore, nor go to online asexual communities.
There’s a lot of people whose sexuality is NO, and being forced to share “safe” spaces online for their shared lack of sexuality with people who also say they’re asexual but their sexuality is YES is awkward, uncomfortable, and off-putting.
AKA no longer safe spaces (or a safe to use label) for those whose sexuality is NO.
Currently, thankfully, people offline still seem to understand “I’m asexual” means “No, I do not want to fuck. Not anyone, not ever.”
I would appreciate it if the two had separate labels so that they could enjoy their own commonalities, rather than being lumped into one despite being very, very different. Incompatibly different.
It feels like the equivalent of a lot of guys going into a space for gay guys, saying “I’m totally gay, but I really prefer sex with women and if you say a guy having sex with women ain’t gay then you’re just homophobic”.
Then on every single post about guys with guys, you get comments saying “Guys like girls too! Don’t forget about us!”
Like, Bisexual and Heterosexual are right there. Why go into a Homosexual space and change it instead?
You do have separate labels. You’re sex repulsed and they’re sex positive. If you don’t want to talk to them, all you have to do is be specific. Make yourself a sex repulsed support group.
You can be asexual – not experiencing sexual attraction to some degree – while still enjoying the act itself. But you can also be totally opposed to any sexual activity, it’s a spectrum like most sexualities.
Ace refers to who you are attracted to sexually, not what acts you find enjoyable. You can just enjoy the physical stimulation (also some aces enjoy sex with partners as a part of a romantic relationship, but not sure if that applies to what I said.
I don’t know if penis.gay exists, but it should. Think about it. If you’re a gay dude, and you’re out and proud, what better way to find other gay dudes who are also out and proud?
I don’t know how social interaction works with finding other like minded gay guys, but do you know how thrilled straight men would be if women had a horny.drippingpussy instance that they used when they wanted sex?
I think part of the problem with guys trying to find sex, is chasing it from people who are in no way interested. So if Tom flirts with Sally, but Sally is asexual, then Tom has a 0% succsess potential if he hits on her at the bar. But he doesn’t know that. So after he gets rejected, now he feels bad about himself. Nobody likes getting rejected.
But if Tom went on nsfwlemmy, and found [email protected] then he would know that she’s just like a Buffalo NY city street in December. Ready to be plowed.
And for gay guys, penis.gay would let them identify to each other that they’re all like minded, and judgement free.
Although as I think about this, at least in America, it may not be the best idea, because now ICE is essentially becoming the S.S. and using social media activity to track “undesirables”. And I don’t trust the republicans to be open minded and empathetic. We all know what the nazis did with gay people in the 30s/40s.
So I guess it would be one of those things that would be great in a perfect world…but because we live in this reality, we can’t have nice things.
A good alternative would be …
penis.mightier
That one should be for writers. Poets and authors and literature enthusiasts. Feign ignorance if anyone comments on the name.
It’s not an instance, and that is one hell of a landing page.
https://penis.gay/
for other curious minds
Wow, it’s like a blast from the past. It looks like the kind of personal webpage you’d stumble across back in 2000. The only thing missing is music that auto plays when the page loads (thank goodness.)
It did remind me of the geocities days.
I just checked, and penis.gay is currently taken. However,
penis.worldandpenis.fitare both available, albeit expensive.I’m pretty sure it’s one of you fucks that did this too
Wasn’t me, I’m content with just
mulesex.infoandowmyass.help.From what I’ve heard, hooking up is already pretty easy for gay guys. Basically “u want sum fuk?”
lemmy.smash and this is the instance mascot
disappointed that this is not a real TLD
What if you just join cause you think penises are gay?
Penises are pretty gay tbh
Would be funny to make a penis.straight for a bunch of straight guys show up, but then it’s nothing but dudes, so it becomes . gay anyways lol
I know touch.wang is a real domain.
Idk, that sounds like the type of username some aces I know would use. Granted, they’re also the type who’d love to be spitroasted…
I am extremely uneducated about this point, but how are “asexual” and “love to be spitroasted” compatible things in the same person?
Feel free to tell me to just search this on my own, but I am hella confused and if you can spare the time, that would help me greatly.
A lot if horny people like the idea of joining the LGBT club and ironically found the Asexual label the easiest one to morph to their desires.
So now a lot of people online will say asexuals are still very much sexual, and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.
No, that’s bigoted nonsense. Trans people had to suffer well meaning cis people crying about “transtrenders” in the 10s and I guess aces have to deal with this too now.
Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction. Attraction is like hunger. Some people like to eat sweets even when they’re not hungry, some people don’t. The words for that are “sex positive ace” and “sex repulsed ace”.
Asexuality is also an umbrella. There’s demisexuals, grey aces, and others under the umbrella.
Also also, there’s aces who are into kink, but not genitals.
“and help that be a self-fulfilling prophecy by not caring that it makes people looking for others who are naturally not sexual very uncomfortable to be considered under the same label.”
Thanks for being among them. This is why I don’t use that descriptor online anymore, nor go to online asexual communities.
There’s a lot of people whose sexuality is NO, and being forced to share “safe” spaces online for their shared lack of sexuality with people who also say they’re asexual but their sexuality is YES is awkward, uncomfortable, and off-putting.
AKA no longer safe spaces (or a safe to use label) for those whose sexuality is NO.
Currently, thankfully, people offline still seem to understand “I’m asexual” means “No, I do not want to fuck. Not anyone, not ever.”
So you want to exclude sex positive aces from the community because sharing the label makes you feel yucky?
I would appreciate it if the two had separate labels so that they could enjoy their own commonalities, rather than being lumped into one despite being very, very different. Incompatibly different.
It feels like the equivalent of a lot of guys going into a space for gay guys, saying “I’m totally gay, but I really prefer sex with women and if you say a guy having sex with women ain’t gay then you’re just homophobic”.
Then on every single post about guys with guys, you get comments saying “Guys like girls too! Don’t forget about us!”
Like, Bisexual and Heterosexual are right there. Why go into a Homosexual space and change it instead?
You do have separate labels. You’re sex repulsed and they’re sex positive. If you don’t want to talk to them, all you have to do is be specific. Make yourself a sex repulsed support group.
You can be asexual – not experiencing sexual attraction to some degree – while still enjoying the act itself. But you can also be totally opposed to any sexual activity, it’s a spectrum like most sexualities.
Ace refers to who you are attracted to sexually, not what acts you find enjoyable. You can just enjoy the physical stimulation (also some aces enjoy sex with partners as a part of a romantic relationship, but not sure if that applies to what I said.
You know asexual people who like getting plowed by multiple people simultaneously? Huh.
Just one. But yeah. Not exactly a demographic I seek out.