• kieron115@startrek.website
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    14 hours ago

    “Black and white” thinking is something that adhd and asd people struggle with constantly. It may not be a choice.

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      9 hours ago

      I’ll bite. I could have seen myself doing something like this before I was put on anti-anxiety and anti-depression medication. The reasoning was I would have invented some kind story in my head that ACTUALLY my husband is going on this trip because he HATES ME. Or maybe he’s cheating. Or or or or- and it would have spiraled out from there until I was in tears. It sucked, and I am still sometimes kind of shocked I survived long enough to get treatment.

      Not saying that’s what happened here of course, but I could empathize.

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        8 hours ago

        you get it. glad you found something that helps, took me a while to find a med combo that worked to help me “logic” my way through the emotions. they’re still there, but i’m able to bitch slap them into submission more easily.

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      14 hours ago

      My gf and I both have ASD and being direct and stating exactly how we’re feeling in the moment bluntly has made things 2000% easier.

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        14 hours ago

        that’s awesome. it can take a lot of courage to be blunt, even if you’re very close to someone. i always have that voice in the back of my head going “was i too blunt? what if i offended them? what if they hate me now?” etc etc, even when i’m trying to be polite.