Long story short I have an image I don’t like but from another point of view I fit it perfectly. It’s not really a negative perception but I just don’t like I’m being shoved into a stereotype. It’s even more infuriating when I try to do my best to not fit into that stereotype. But people still see me as said stereotype.

So what should one do when they have an image they don’t care for? Should they try their hardest to change it? Or maybe something else?

    • Fat Tony@lemmy.worldOP
      7·
      5 hours ago

      Suppose I was, what advice would you give?

      Seriously, that’s actually a pretty good analogy. 😂

      • Apytele@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        8·
        4 hours ago

        Get a blue Mohawk and wear Hawaiian polos, cargo shorts, and tennis shoes everywhere. If you really don’t like what people see, change what they see. Or change the context they see you in. If you’re always hanging around a cleaners with other people who look like Italian mobsters and you look like you fit in then there you are. Whether it’s ultimately worth it to you to change your appearance or lifestyle is ultimately up to you. There are, ultimately, 4 ways to deal with a problem:

        1. redefine / stop thinking about it as a problem
        2. accept that the problem exists
        3. be willing to do whatever you have to do to change the problem
        4. be upset about the problem.

        #4 is the only one I vehemently recommend against. 1-3 are all roughly equal in the amount of distress you will be left with in the end.