• Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    10 hours ago

    just like I wouldn’t blame a rape victim, even if they “should have known better than to wear that skimpy dress”.

    You’re like thiiiis 🤏 close to getting it, but you still managed to miss the mark.

      • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        3 hours ago

        You can’t say ‘I’m not victim-blaming but she should have known better’. That’s just victim-blaming with extra steps. The other commenter tried to point out to you that most rapes happen from someone the victim knows to point out that it won’t really matter what they wear. The “mark” is that women shouldn’t be objectified no matter what they do or don’t do. The author of the article might have expected that with blocks on nudity and other obviously explicit content, that she would be safe. You’ve come into this thread to say ‘she should have known better’. Like, let’s put aside AI for a second. This sort of thing has been happening to women who upload photos of themselves to the internet for a long time as well, with regular old photo editing software. Do you think they should refrain as well?

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          You can’t say ‘I’m not victim-blaming but she should have known better’.

          And I didn’t.

          You’ve come into this thread to say ‘she should have known better’.

          I didn’t.

          Do you think they should refrain as well?

          They need to know that bad shit can happen to them if they do, that’s it.

          What I did was put “even if they should have known better” in quotation marks, just like I did just now, because that’s what people MIGHT say about victims and I don’t agree with it. I honestly don’t know how I could’ve made that clearer without straying even further from the original point.

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            3 hours ago

            You’ve come into this thread to say ‘she should have known better’.

            I didn’t.

            You’re right, my mistake, you said:

            You can choose settings that make your likeness private, or open to just your friends — but I figured, why not?

            Because this is the internet?

            She basically said “take my face, do whatever with it” and now seems surprised that people did whatever with it to get their rocks off.

            Which is basically saying ‘she should have known better’ but with extra steps.

            It doesn’t actually work if you say stuff that is victim-blaming but add a little disclaimer that says “I’m not victim-blaming”. Like I said, you’re thiiiis 🤏 close to getting it.