• lightnsfw@reddthat.com
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    6
    ·
    4 hours ago

    My friends compliment me on my physique and being well dressed pretty often. Sometimes they give me shit for it to but that’s just banter. I don’t compliment them much on their appearance but that’s because they usually dress pretty schlubby and don’t take care of themselves.

  • Apathy Tree@lemmy.dbzer0.com
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    23
    ·
    edit-2
    6 hours ago

    Girl half is def. accurate.

    It’s not something I’ve ever done, but I’ve had a ton of friends do to me. And I absolutely do feel them or whatever they want.

    My bff even showed me her nipple piercings after she got them, so I could compliment her on them :p

    • ByteJunk@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      16
      arrow-down
      1
      ·
      4 hours ago

      Boy half is somewhat accurate, but usually it’ll be some other friend in the conversation who’ll jump in with some stupid remark like “what you guys homo now”, and the rest will join in and laugh.

      Having learned their lesson, they’ll know not to compliment another boy again, and to mock others if they do it.

      It spreads like a cancer, really.

        • ripcord@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          2
          arrow-down
          1
          ·
          52 minutes ago

          It’s not universal. There are guys that are emotionally mature. But yeah this is a really dumb and common cultural thing.

  • GargleBlaster@feddit.org
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    84
    arrow-down
    3
    ·
    8 hours ago

    The male thing seems so (finally) die out in younger generations. Just give people compliments, spread happiness. The world’s already fucked up enough for gods sake

    • Lupus@feddit.org
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      32
      ·
      6 hours ago

      I’m in my mid thirties, me and my friends always have been like this. We also cuddle sometimes, always have. When we had movie nights we would have what we’d call the puppy pile - just put your head on my shoulder bro.

      We didn’t even know it was unusual until a friend visited with his gf while we had movie night and she was endeared when she saw the puppy pile “I love how comfortable you all are with each other!” - “What do you mean?”

      Cuddle your bros, bros! It’s nice :)

      • ameancow@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        1
        ·
        19 minutes ago

        Speaking for myself, and likely the broad majority of adult straight men in the world, I would feel very uncomfortable in that kind of environment and would not enjoy physical contact with even good friends.

        Is this feeling a product of an entire system of social constructs based on things like sexual insecurity and iron-age standards of masculinity? Definitely… but it’s not something I could turn off and on, the mask has grown into the flesh.

        Would our world be better if everyone, broadly, across all genders and ages and cultures were more physically close and less worried about sexual feelings or less concerned with physical intimacy of any kind? Also absolutely, so I hope this kind of culture does spread. We need people, men especially, to start having friends and relationships with other humans again. When we all decided as a society that men must be isolated walls of stone, we lost something important in our shared fabric.

        • spankinspinach@sh.itjust.works
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          1
          ·
          5 minutes ago

          I agree, my only contention is: not something important. Something fundamental to existence. Humans are primates, and touch is one of the most natural interactions a primate has. It is calming, safety, belonging.

          A recent study I saw on science alert talked about how “men experience touching their partners as one of the best solutions to their anxiety”. Yeah, no shit, the sun also rises in the morning lol just my 2 cents

  • _‌_反いじめ戦隊@ani.social
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    2
    arrow-down
    2
    ·
    2 hours ago

    Assuming it’s between friends comfortable touching each other, I comprehend why men are apprehensive from being raped by homosexuals and homophobic harassers.
    Now mix the genders on these panels: A woman complimenting a man’s haircut, and Sarah being a man instead.