These are all phrases which are condescending, smug, and emotionally detached.
Saying “fuck you” is not condescending or smug, it’s an expression of emotional anger.
Replace any of these phrases with fuck you and the meaning of what you are saying is completely changing.
So I don’t agree that this post makes sense. It’s straight up incorrect. It’s a complete misinterpretation of the English language.
I’m agreeing with you, but I don’t think the phrases have to be condescending, smug or detached?
They surely point to a disagreement, but can’t they be used from such a position in a genuine capacity without implying the person is being condescending or smug about it?
Of course it’s easy to see how when those things are said to you, they may be perceived as smug or condescending, because the other person doesn’t want to agree with you. But that doesn’t necessarily make them so.
Not a native English speaker though, so genuinely curious about the nuances here.
‘Bless your heart’ is distilled condescension.
I wrote a thing not fully reading the title, and now I have realized I didn’t understand the vibe of your comment. Agree 10/10.
You do you /s
I thought “bless your heart” was just a meme up until I went back to my Midwestern home state with my wife (from Mexico) and our two chihuahuas. In a tourist “town” she’d gone into a bakery and I waited for her with the dogs outside.
Another white family (I’m white) had walked up and started talking to me. They were pretty friendly up until I mentioned we were visiting from Los Angeles at which point they responded “bless your heart” in a heavy southern accent and immediately walked away. It was kind of jarring seeing that kind of behavior after years of living away from there.
Some small town rednecks think larger cities are some sort of crime ridden hell hole where you have a 78.3% chance of being murdered on any given day.
I think they’re really just afraid of traffic and people who aren’t white.
I mean… It is a meme.
I feel like everyone is forgetting that memes are any idea that spreads like a virus, and not just .webms of tweets with the phrase “nobody:” at the top
It’s offensive (for me) to consider the “nobody:” posts memes.
Likewise, expressions are not memes either.
I will gatekeep this, and if you think that’s wrong, just think of it like I’m making gatekeeping a meme.
Likewise, expressions are not memes either.
It’s ok to have an opinion, even when you’re objectively wrong. A meme is just ‘a unit of cultural transmission’, and image macros and funny pictures are all memes, just like phrases or dances are as well.
Bless your heart
Expressions aren’t memes, huh. I give that a 23 skidoo out of 10.
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I say “you do you” more in the sense that whatever they are doing or going to do is not something I would do. It certainly isn’t a “fuck you”. It can definitely have some snark like “everything you just said is fucking stupid, but you do you”. But the tone is meant to convey that I’m not going to put any further effort into convincing them.
I’ve mostly heard it used in the sense that there exists a million ways to accomplish this and your way is as good as any other, or to convey the validity of personal preferences.
Ime mostly heard it in the context of: I would do that simple thing the correct and sensible way, but you do you.
That’s how I use it, “I would never have thought of solving it like that, but I accept your way of doing it”
“As per my previous email”
My favorite professional fuck you is “… Help me understand.” in response to some dumbass shit they just said.
None of those are “fuck you”, they’re more or less all variants of “I think you’re making a mistake”. Mixing them up is, well, you do you, and good luck with that.
Bold move, Cotton.
I use “good luck with that,” when I’ve been asked advice on a topic I’m knowledgeable in and they decide to go against my advice. It’s not “fuck you,” but it is “I told you so” in advance.
“hey, I need help with that thing I talked to you about”
“my hourly rate just went up 4x, what can I do for you”
E: like this
May your day be as pleasant as you are.
Funnily enough, this works at both ends of the scale.
“Bless your heart” is not only “Fuck you” but “You’re the stupidest fuck I’ve seen all day.”
It’s very useful, highly recommend.
Only bless your heart can be interpreted as Fuck You but it and all the others are traditionally translated as :
Fucking moron.
I think it’s a mistranslation from French.
My favourite alternative to fuck you is jog on.
Do one mate
How british! I approve
A colleague kept saying “Love that for you” unironically and genuinely. It lasted a day before someone spoke up about her new thing not working.
One of my coworkers says that and genuinely means it, nicest dude.
After being cut off by some jackass while driving: 👍
Gotta pair it with a shit eating grin.
That’s why you gotta drive a beater. Hit em with a little one-two pit maneuver. Assert your dominance.
“Bless your heart”
“The fuck you just say to me!?”
Where is the ‘I love that for you’?
