Me, over 50 💀
This checks out.
My co-worker running ahead of me at 40, looking like the happest person there:
Second one is spot on.
Aging sucks. I think with the tremendous computing resources presently wasted on vapid AI slop and endless fart videos, we could instead use it for anti-aging research.
Naah, it’s not nearly smart enough to do that yet.
Let’s just say that even if you where immortal, there is still the issue of your “soul” aging. In other words, you know you are old, and you won’t enjoy playing Pokemon Platinum in the same way.
Society will also increasingy isolate you in various ways.
Fear mongering nonsense. Did anyone feel that way when infant mortality went way down?
You’ll have other people the same “old” as you to hang out with. Many people say they “feel 25” inside, well guess what, now we can make your body align with that.
We already have “anti-aging” compared to how people aged, say, two hundred or two thousand years ago.
Besides, “immortality” is an absolute, you can always choose to unalive yourself if you feel so strongly about Pokemon Platinum. No Greek-style tragedy of the “immortal” who can’t kill themselves.
Seems to me there is a lot more in life that can be enjoyed with a few extra centuries.
Or even better, a Logan’s Run style of extended youth for your “allotted” four score and ten, then poof! Carousel. No aging, no senescence, no frailty, sickness, disease, waning sense and shrinking brains, just extended 20-something for 60 years, then ZAAP!
I’ll take that over the meandering aging nonsense of how I’m supposed to revel in my aging carcass.
PS: There is no soul. Just complex patterns in a vat of neurons.
Tell that to my knees
Ok. All that just to tell you I’m 29, and get asked occasionally what grade I’m in. I’d know. I can already see all the anti-aging interventions, but I feel like I missed out on something permanently. Like nothing can make up for that fact.
And that is why I’m going to compensate by being a glorious warrior. I have nothing else left.
Knew a fellow who had a similar look. He’d go into the bars and hand the hottest woman there a $20 and ask her to buy the drinks because he was afraid of getting carded. Most of the time they enjoyed the idea of corrupting an innocent and paid for his drinks.
Priceless. I can drink a certain hard drink casually…Thank you for giving me ideas
I’d rather be isolated than dead.
Depends. Will I still have my glasses, now that I have time to read all the books in the library?
Not saying I’d rather be dead (oftentimes I would), but there’s some things money, time, and success can’t fix. Like for example: if you fuck a goat, you are a goat fucker for life.
Not gonna happen, humans don’t prioritize like that.
They’ll make slop and scams in desperate attempts to justify taking their share of the produce from the mechanized fields.
I remember SETI@home and folding@home… SETI I think is a dead end, but understanding our genome and proteome and how constantly recycled ageless atoms somehow manage to encode “age” is something I really want to know.
Tbf when I was 8-9 years old I thought that 14 year olds were fully grown adults.
This but it just keeps on going.
8? 15 = adult
15? 25 = adult
25? 35 = adult
I have income, a job, a car, a place to live. I dont feel like an adult yet.Heard an interview one. The man said that at 20 he could imagine being 40, and at 40 he could imagine being 80. He was 67 at the time…
You become an adult when you hear someone telling their kids to behave or “that mister” will tell them off.
You look around. There’s nobody else. You have become The Mister. The stranger based punishment of exasperated mothers everywhere. You are now an adult.
Same here, save a car. I am also waiting for that magical moment when “you will understand when you grow up”. Welp, how much more growing do I have to do to reach that magical understanding
that some grown-ups are toxic moronsuntold mysteries of the universe35? 45 = adult over 40? I am supposed to be an adult? That doesn’t sound right.
Same
I’ve abused my body so much with drugs and alcohol and crowd surfing at concerts and late night dance parties and raves and vaping and smoking before that (actually quit for seven years; starting again was the biggest mistake of my life) and junk food and fast food. Even now that I have a pretty healthy diet and we like to go hiking, I know how much I’ve taken from my future. I don’t expect to live much past seventy, and maybe not even that. But then again, I was sure I wouldn’t reach 25 and that came and went.
As someone who has a relationship with smoking, I feel like I have to say a few words:
Apart from abusing my body in ways similar to what you described, I also smoked for almost 15 years. I started out of stupidity in my twenties. I was not even in high-school, I totally averted that danger… only to step in it years later voluntarily and for stupid reasons (I coughed when trying to smoke pot so I thought I should practice, then found out the high was pretty nice and reasoned it was cheaper to smoke this than pot). Anyway, I gave up 2 years ago, but I tried many times before that. I tried cold turkey, I tried gradually, I tried lighter cigarettes, but nothing worked. The idea of never ever smoking another cigarette for as long as I lived was paralyzing. I also hated how it controlled me, and it felt like avoiding any contact with any cigarette ever was also a form of it controlling me from the other direction. So I worked something out that works for me, and maybe it will for you:
My goal was to solve the control problem more than anything. So I said I don’t want a love or hate relationship with cigarettes: I want indifference. It means I don’t buy cigarettes anymore, for one. This is probably the most important part, just don’t smoke at home or during normal activities. The physical dependence is present in the first 3 days, after that it’s just psychological, or so they say, so I took advantage of when I was down with a cold and couldn’t smoke, and I kept it up after. I still had some cigarettes left and I smoked them with some friends when I was out for beers, about 2 weeks later. Whenever I felt stressed at work or whatever, I tried to just take my hand and put it on my mouth with like 2 fingers as if I was holding a cigarette and just suck thin air like it was a cigarette then blow the fictional smoke, I’d do it multiple times if needed — this gesture was calming, even if it didn’t last as long as it did with the real thing, it was like halfway there. Even though this sounds like quitting, the goal was still indifference, but I was way too much in the “I need to smoke” control zone so I focused on pulling out. Throughout I didn’t think of myself as anything related to smoking: I wasn’t a smoker because it felt defeatist, I wasn’t a non-smoker because it felt unearned, I wasn’t an occasional smoker because it felt lazy — I was just trying to take the control out of my relationship with smoking and turn it into something more like “friends with benefits”. I had a quit-smoking-timer app on my phone which in previous attempts I kept resetting with each cigarette I wasn’t able to resist, but this time I said I’m not going to punish myself anymore: this is a new mindset and it allows for casual smoking just like you casually try some weed at a party if someone is offering and it doesn’t make you addicted to weed or a weed smoker or anything like that — you’re just having fun — so the app measures the time since I adopted this new mindset and new (non)relationship with smoking.
The first month was probably the only time I kept needing to repeat all of the above to myself. After that it became second nature. It was both easier and harder to do than I initially thought, but I’m confident in myself now because it’s more of a fundamental identity change than a change in habits or actions: it’s internal, how I see myself vis a vis smoking.
Maybe a mindset like this can help you conquer your addiction, if you’re interested. I say “if you’re interested” because you probably know already: you have to want it first. It can’t be forced on you, it really has to come from you. If it helps, for me it came when I got mad that, after forcing myself to smoke lighter and lighter cigarettes, I learned that they’re just as harmful in the long run, so I got even more mad at big tobacco for lying to me like that (apart from all the other horrible shit they’ve done) and that betrayal was the fuel I used as motivation. It’s always the petty stuff that gets us the most, lol. Also, I really don’t want to check out that soon. Non-existence is terrifying, and life is finally getting better for me. But I’m also older and need to watch my health, so I’m more open now to actively changing stuff for said health.
For me I found casual or occasional smoking could too easily become “just one more”. I hated the fact that it had a grip over me but I needed a more definitive reason to quit. What worked for me was when my sister told me she was going to have a baby. I didn’t want that kid to have smoking adults in her life. Which meant I had to quit, and hopefully that would help my sister to quit as well. I don’t know if my actions made any difference but she did quit. Doing it for a kid was a powerful motivator for me. When she gave me the news, I put down the phone, tossed my remaining cigarettes in the trash and left it at that. Not even one last one. I knew I had the motivation I was waiting for and that was the end of it.
I guess everybody has their own way that works for them and you just need to find what that is.
Yeah for sure. I’m afraid of the “just one more” thing too, that’s why I don’t think of it as casual. It’s more like I expressly forbid it in association with things I do every day or places I am every day, then if it happens in the corner cases once in a blue moon, I’m fine. So for instance, one rule I have is not to buy any packs ever and I don’t keep any around the house — you don’t move in with your FWB lol. But if there’s a crowd of friends or something, we can partake, but it’s like a ritual, it has a clear start and end and you don’t take it home with you. I specifically modeled it after weed, since I’m not addicted to that at all, and if it’s around me I sometimes partake and sometimes don’t. That’s how I’m currently with cigarettes. Plus, I don’t go out much these days, so I barely even see anyone else do it.
That said, you’re right: both that it’s a different experience for everyone, and that it’s better to just never touch it again, but personally I can’t live with the thought of being banned from something for the rest of my life, because that implies I’ve already experienced it for the last time in my life, and that just brings in the existential dread.
You sound like the type of bastard that lives to be a hundred.
Bro it’s genetics, you’ll probably be an old fuck so long you want it to end like stans grandpa.
“When I am 40, I will have lost my will to live over 20 years prior. I simply wait to die every day. Occasionally I try to do things I think I might enjoy, only to be proven wrong.”
This is me at 30 tbqh
Those kids nailed it.
I’m about to turn 40, it’s all true
Just wait until 40. It’s like going down a step with your eyes closed without knowing the step is coming. Very jarring and painful.
Haha omg, actually the best description of hitting 40 I have seen! Pretty much this yes
Use it or lose it people. I’m over 40 and I’m quite fit and healthy. Do lots of walking, running, rock climbing, golf, and enjoying nature.
I’m in better health than my younger friends simply because I’m more active. See dudes in their 70’s climbing harder than me still and in great shape. You’ve just got to keep moving.
Hearing people younger than me talk about how their bodies are falling apart is surreal. I do basically the bare minimum in terms of nutrition, exercise a bit daily, and I feel basically the same as I did in my 20s. Maybe better even because I’m not underweight.
What if I wanna sit on the couch and eat pizza?
You do you bro, this message is for anybody or nobody
i mean, they’re not wrong.
If you have wrinkles at 40 you need to wear more sunscreen and drink more water.
There are wrinkles in my soul.
you need to wear more
sunscreensoulscreen and drink more water.
My balls are wrinkly, and they’ve barely seen any sun at all.
But you do admit you remember exposing them to direct sunlight more than once?
is “direct sunlight” a code word for families at Shoneys?
They wanna drive a wooden stake through my heart for pulling my cock out at the Toronto blue Jays game; but all I’m saying is I bought the tickets!
When did you start dating Lauren Boebert?
Edit: grammar
Im a demon. I have no loyalty for anyone! Never did, never will. Shorty chose to be with a demon, sounds like her problem to me haha
Nudist beach is a pretty good explanation.
Please don’t bring reason and understanding into this, I’m trying to be irrationally judgmental over here.
If you have wrinkles at 40 you need to wear more sunscreen and drink more water.
But also even if you don’t have wrinkles you should wear sunscreen and probably drink more water anyway.
*Proceeds to drink even more water and die from brain swelling.*
I’ve got mad forehead and cheek wrinkles and I’m 30 haha
It’s more about how I feel inside.
Wearing water and drinking sunscreen works pretty well too !
Or simply never tempt the smiting of the Sky Sphere
Im sorry but if isn’t too much trouble could you open your eyes? People at 40 have wrinkles. That is very normal.
I’m sorry, where did I say that people at 40 don’t have wrinkles?
Hey! I resemble that remark!
What planet do you live on where you see 40 year olds without any wrinkles at all? Absolutely ridiculous comment. Why do people upvote trash replies like this?
I’m in my forties and have no wrinkles. I have a few friends who have wrinkles but most of them don’t. Maybe you should drink more water and wear more sunscreen.
Yeah, I am 43 and while I have some very fine lines on my forehead, and near my eyes, you can’t really see them unless you are like within 2 feet of me, or closer. And I have a long history with smoking and drug use. Also I am white, very white, not quite ginger ghost white, but not too far off. Genetics play a very strong role in this, and, at least from my perspective as someone who smoked for 28 years, and did hard drugs for 17, staying out of the sun. I have only really been doing anything close to a routine skin care regimen in like the last 5 years. I have also been homeless. So… yeah, not only do I believe you, I know people just like you. Hell, I probably would have much smoother skin, with no lines, if it wasn’t for how bad I treated myself.
Not even any fine lines? Hard to believe.
You need to talk to an eye doctor as your vision has significantly faded if most of the 40 somethings have no wrinkles.
I live in a tropical country where most people take care of their skin. My eyes are fine.
Again I doubt that strongly. No one has crows feet?
I feel like I’m in the twilight zone with this thread. Are people going to start saying that the sky isn’t blue? Extremely weird replies here
That’s such BS dude. You’re telling me you have absolutely no wrinkles that weren’t there in your 20s or early 30s? Not a single one. That’s absolute bullshit I’m sorry. Unless you’re claiming to be some genetic oddity and are immortal, you are lying.
Eesh why the hostility? I don’t have wrinkles. I don’t care if you believe me or not. This is the internet.
Treat your skin well, get good sleep, drink lots of water, don’t do drugs or smoke. You won’t have wrinkles at 40. Neglect any of those and the likelihood of having wrinkles increases. Sorry that you look like an old bag at 40 but maybe treat yourself better.
I’m coming off as hostile because I don’t like it when clearly false or misleading comments get upvoted. It’s upsetting.
You don’t know everyone on the planet or where they live or how they’ve lived so to call someone a liar for a statement about their own body is asinine.
Are we all assuming everyone in this conversation is white? Because I know plenty of black and Asian friends who I don’t recall having wrinkles. Most of them have pretty solid moisturizing/lotion/sunscreen routines, though, so it’s hard to tell how much is cultural versus genetic.
Look at the corners of their eyes, mouths, and forehead and you will see wrinkles. They are slight but pretty much everyone has them by 40 something
I think any race will show wrinkles at 40. Some more than others, sure. But definitely all races will at least have SOME newer wrinkles at age 40. To deny this is insanity.
I know you’re claiming it’s not possible but I’m 38, I’ve done mostly night shifts and stayed out of the sun, I moisturize religiously and have since I was a teen, and I don’t smoke and barely drink (ADHD meds don’t play nice with alcohol).
I’m wrinkle-free.
Now compare to my sister, a few years older than me, used to tan growing up by laying out and getting a sunburn, has smoked since we were teens. Insanely wrinkled. Big, deep wrinkles.
This happens. I think the other person was being flippant and dismissive but… it happens!
Sorry, I refuse to believe that you do not have a single facial wrinkle that wasn’t there in your 20s or early 30s. I just don’t believe it. It’s impossible. Perhaps people are misunderstanding me and thinking I mean a shit ton of wrinkles that make you look like you’re 80? Because no, that’s not what I’m saying.
Not even crow’s feet.
I do a facial once a week. I do microdermabrasion once a week. I can’t stress enough that I hate the sun. I’m sorry if that isn’t your experience, but it happens. I’d share a picture of my face, but I’m trying not to completely dox myself.
Eta: And lots of water. Gotta drink lots of water.
I just double-checked in the mirror, and I don’t have any wrinkles yet either.
That’s what happens when you don’t go outside enough, I guess!
(I am starting to get a few gray hairs, though, if it makes you feel any better.)
Impossible. Not physically possible. If you were to compare your face to a close up high res pic of your younger self, you wil 100% see changes and wrinkles. They may be small but they’re there. No way in absolute hell this isn’t true.
They could just have declining vision in middle age and be dumb. They dont have to be lying.
I’m 40 and my body is literally falling apart and in an hour or so I’m going to my local urgent care for internal bleeding they’re probably going to send me to the ER for.
So yeah, these kids were pretty much spot on. No wrinkles though. So I’ve got that going for me.
Urgent and “in an hour or so” - wait wat? You must be a fellow American. At least we got Freedom tho, right?
Anyway I hope it doesn’t turn out to be too serious.
Just run of the mill internal bleeding. No big deal.
That’s where blood is supposed to be
As long as the blood is on the inside I’m not seeing the problem?
Totally American.
I’ve been put through the ringer by the American healthcare system enough already that I wait as long as possible before giving in and getting help. I’ve been bleeding for a few weeks. It’s almost for sure an ulcer. Here’s hoping they don’t do what they’ve done in the past, which is mis-diagnose me or make me wait months to see the wrong specialist.
Peptic ulcer is one of the floors of hell that has no end or exits. Got one at 22 years old; best friends still at 47. The magic words to your a primary care Dr is “request an upper endoscopy” and “referral to gastroenterologist”.
… name checks out… shit.
I met one of my neighbors kids the other day. They’re new to the neighborhood so we were talking about the ages of his family members compared to mine. He just turned 6. I asked how old his dad was and he said 50 or 60. I could see his dad across the yard and he’s definitely younger than me. I asked how old he thought I was and he said 70. I’m 36. Kids can be meaner on accident than assholes are on purpose.
Ngl, at 40, I had some wrinkles, my first gray hairs were showing up, and I was using a cane
See this is another matter. I don’t have wrinkles, but I went gray before I turned 20.
Some wrinkles, some grays… Well, a lot of grays in the beard.
I got a genetic double whammy. Baldness on my mom’s side, and my dad (and his father and brother) were gray by 25.
That being said, I blame it mostly on a certain group of people I can’t seem to escape.
They make my life more difficult at every turn.
Their mere existence is guaranteed to give me a head ache down the line.
Of course I’m talking about
youthoughtthiswasgoingtoberacistend users.
