Me (13 years old at the time): Dad, Mom’s cheating on you. I saw her making out with this man.
Dad: Listen here, princess. The guy’s filthy rich, and when you have money, it’s normal to have a hot mistress like your mom.
Me: But aren’t you jealous?
Dad: laughs
I was flabbergasted, lmao.
Had a high school friend who relied on the pullout method bc condoms made things “too awkward.” After a close call with a person (I’ll call them X) who’s life was full of drama:
“Don’t get me wrong, I’m very prolife, but if I found out I was pregnant with X’s baby, I would get an abortion.”
I must have made a face bc she then quickly tried to clarify “If it was Y or Z though, I would keep the baby.” 🤦♀️
I listened to a video yesterday about the beliefs of sovereign citizens. These whackjobs think the Untied States isn’t a country but a corporation and that they don’t have to obey laws if they opt out of membership. They believe laws about driving only apply to transporting goods and that otherwise you’re merely “traveling”. And other such nonsense I’m not sure how to explain
That Democrats were aborting babies after they are born, and that immigrants are eating our cats and dogs.
There’s no such thing as a flu vaccine, that’s why they call it a “flu shot”
I haven’t taken anything this person says seriously since then
I own a bar and before we opened I reached out to one of those novelty vending machine companies that sells weird stuff and gags. The guy came down to meet to discuss the design of the machine etc, super nice guy. His daughter came too, she was an artist and was going to paint the machine. They sent mockups and got to work, everything seemed good to go ahead of our opening.
A week before we open, I reach out to see when they want to install it and I get no reply. I try again a few days later and get a very formal message to the effect of “we’re super sorry but we’re not going to be able to pursue this opportunity at this time, best of luck”. I’m pissed that time was wasted, the machine was finished, I had seen final pictures with our logo and design etc. I figured maybe they got some bigger offer from like the local stadium to install a machine that they couldn’t pass up.
Months go by, I’ve found another company that’s working on a new machine for us. Original guy texts me “hey, are you at the bar, I’d love to stop by and explain what happened.” I start to tell a customer at the bar about what happened and I’m like, I don’t wanna talk to this guy in my mind, and I look up, and he’s standing outside the bar in the rain. He comes in, and he looks like he’s been to hell and back.
He’s so different this time, very soft spoken, tail between his legs vibes. He apologizes and said they had a family issue that prevented them from moving forward, but they working on getting back on track. I feel bad and trying to be empathetic, and then the guy goes, “I’m sorry, but my wife just didn’t want me working with you because of David.”
“Who the fuck is David?” I reply. “David Devolla” he says. I have no idea who he’s talking about. I’ve never met his wife, or this David person. Then he goes “wait, can I ask you a weird question? Are you straight?” “Yeah man…”
“GOD DAMNT, SHE DID IT AGAIN” he said. I’m so confused right now. He then proceeds to tell me that his wife has been battling psychosis and having major mental issues. Apparently, this David guy was her former boss that fired her, and even though I’ve never met her, or David, and am straight, she was convinced I was having a secret gay affair with David and told her husband he wasn’t allowed to do business with me. What the actual fuck. Dude started creeping me out big time. He came in again a week later and told me he was driving to Vegas the next morning to marry his wife because even though he said they were married, they never actually were, and he believed doing so would fix her mental state. I follow them on Instagram still and I can tell you, it did not. She posts the absolute weirdest nonsensical things and it’s honestly entertaining to watch but also sad as hell. Bullet dodged, the new company is so so much better, but yikes all around. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
Marrying someone to fix their issues is a lot like having a kid to save a marriage.
So you mean it always works?
Not necessarily unhinged, per se, but I knew a former very high ranking military IED specialist who would sweep the white house and places where the president would be going to before they showed up, every chance he got he bare ass farted on the Bush’s pillows.
He ended up being a pretty shitty guy, but I’m still going to give him Chad points for that one.
That doesn’t sound like cheating, that’s more like an open relationship. He knew about it and didn’t care.
The financial incentive makes it closer to pimping than swinging, at least potentially. Idk if the possibility the dad was getting something out of it besides, I guess, sexual pleasure stemming from cuckoldry makes it better or worse…
Or the mom is a sugar baby
As one who was in a similar situation to said dad person, back in the day: ¿Por que no los dos? 🤪
I can understand how a 13 yo OP thought it was cheating though. They haven’t said they think it is cheating nowadays :)
The Aunt that never finished elementary school once told me:
“I don’t believe in evolution, because I didn’t believe a baby could be born smarter than its parents”
I was 10-13 years old at the time and just didn’t have the patience to deal with that level of stupid.
It bothers me that Creationists somehow think failing to understand Evolution is the same as debunking it.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard “No that’s not evolution, that’s just an adaptation.”
Ugh, that’s exactly why it’s impossible to argue or even educate them, their definition is so skewed and the complete and utter lack of critical thinking skills.
PS: I’m gunna use that: “Your failing to understand is not debunking, it’s only showing your complete and utter ignorance/stupidity…”
When I did my PhD, I was chatting with another PhD student there. I told him I went to a museum where they had a really cool lineup of all the early hominids, all the way back to Lucy.
And he said something like “why would you care about all those deformed humans?” So I went “no, I mean, the proto humans, before they evolved into homo sapiens”. I laughed and said “aren’t you too smart to believe in evolution?”
So yeah, you don’t have to be stupid to be an idiot.
I had someone tell me on a first date that they’ve been in love with their younger sister since they were teenagers. There was no second date.
My bio father just passed away. I was talking to his best friend of 45 years, basically his brother, and he casually dropped he was raped as a boy. I had asked about my fathers sister, because a lot of that family is scattered and a mess, the daughter of the sister “something happened” is all I know. And he said molestation, and then that he too, was molested by a man as a boy. I was really proud of the 68 year old mam telling me that.
But fucking, add it to the list. Men need a fucking ‘me too’ because I know so, so, many.
I really hate the idea that rape is just “Something that happens to women”
I’m a trans woman, but when I was sexually assaulted I was an 11 year old boy. Nothing was ever done about it, because it was another boy that did it and “Boys will be boys”
I’m sorry that happened. It’s not boy’s will be boy’s, and it clearly doesn’t just happen to women. It’s important we hear everyone’s story, and hopefully create some meaningful change in society at large.
Men need to learn to talk about their issues in general. My pops was brutal when I was a kid. It wasn’t until I grew up that I finally understood that he was made that way. His own dad basically destroyed him.That didn’t excuse all the terrible things he did but it did explain it. It was hard to be angry with him after that. I felt sad for him. That’s a heavy load to carry all alone.
As a rule, I try to never justify someone’s abuse by saying that person was abused themselves. We must all do what we can to stop the cycle of violence.
Yeah. My father’s an angry narcissist, but he was good at telling me that part of what really fucked him up was his mom being a violent alcoholic until right around when I was born. That and how he’d been bullied for being small for a long time as a kid and teenager because he was a late bloomer (he’s a very large man). That insight into him gave him a lot more willingness from me to keep him in my life than he’d ever know, and it helped me as a teenager to pick friends who could talk about their feelings. To this day I still see that angry sob as a small kid who never got taught to control his emotions healthily or how to feel love outside of a self or status focused lens.
That man probably had finally realized that it wasn’t his shame it happened but those that did it and those that enabled it.
I was beat by my father for trying to talk about being raped. I was very young when it happened the first time. It was easier to beat me to silence than it was for him to admit he delivered me to this man so he could go to a pool hall to play snooker and talk shit. He never took me back but there is a reason why I didn’t go to the funeral.
Telling people it happened is better than keeping it secret. After all the shame isn’t the victims its the rapist.
I never understood why we blame rape victims for what happens to them. For some reason society at large seems to think everyone deserves everything that happens to them
Religion seems to make this worse “Oh you have bad karma”, “Oh Law of Attraction, you get what you vibrate out.”, “Haven’t you heard the prosperity gospel? The poor are poor because they’ve angered God.”
I’m sick of this shit
I mean how often have we heard “Elon must be a genius, if he wasn’t he wouldn’t be rich and famous!”
My coworker once started a conversation by casually asking if I’d ever “done anything” with a cousin. Obviously the conversation ended with him revealing he’d fucked his cousin and me saying WTF progressively louder and louder for at least a minute. I work from home now.
And you live with your cousin, right?
You work with Rudy Giuliani?
Probably not the most unhinged but a few weeks ago a coworker told me that Trump is the only president in history whose net worth went down after becoming president.
He’s not FAR right so I usually hear him out and use kid gloves to counter his arguments but I involuntarily replied, “are you out of your fucking mind?!”
I actually had a friend be baffled by me saying Gavin Newsom was a neo-liberal, he swore that Gavin was this ultra leftist and by not liking him I “proved no one’s Left enough for me.”
Fuck me for wanting a President who doesn’t meet up with Charlie Kirk and pals on a podcast to talk about how transpeople eat puppies.
He’s what the right thinks of when they think of a democrat. Very corporate
I thought when the Right thought of a Democrat, they thought of a purple haired hippie wearing a pussy hat and a health mask on a college campus who wears his pronouns on a name tag at all times…a caricature that doesn’t actually represent any group that actually exists.
The voter has blue hair, the politician wears the suit
We likely went from no actual money if you include all the loans to a literal billionaire from the presidency. His crypto bribes alone made him more money than he previously ever made. Now he is suing the taxpayers for 10.3B dollars.
The only point I made before we had to move on was “he made hundreds of millions on day 1 with his meme coin”
There’s like a hundred things he made money on immediately
Sympathies. That tightrope walk of dealing with someone who is misinformed but not malicious is tough. It’s important to challenge them, but not so stridently as to teach them not to engage with you, as you don’t want them to retreat further into that space. I wish I were more successful at it, but my mouth tends to outrun my brain. How did your colleague react to that reality check?
The problem is that it’s very hard to get them to understand reality, because they think YOU’RE the one who’s misinformed.
I actually find it quite rewarding. Not to give myself too much credit but multiple people on the right have told me I’m very easy to talk politics because I’m not outwardly judgemental when I disagree. As for this specific reality check, both of us were on our way to meetings so we shelved it. We talk politics every once in awhile and I’ve been able to change his mind on a lot of things.
Here are some tips for talking with the “soft right” (or anyone you disagree with, really):
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Understand their concern before you talk about the solution, you will probably find common ground to start from.
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LISTEN TO THEM. Ask questions! It’s not a lecture, you’re having a conversation.
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Be smart about how you disagree. “You are wrong because of X Y Z” makes you sound like an asshole, “I’m not so sure I agree with X Y Z” shows that you’re at least considering their opinion.
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You don’t know everything so be honest. “I don’t know enough to speak on it confidently” or “I can’t remember where I heard this so take it with a grain of salt…” AND if you later find out you were wrong, follow up. “Hey yesterday I told you X, it’s actually Y [link]”
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If they want to back out of the conversation, let them. Maybe you’ve given them enough to think about for the day.
At the very least, be the person that makes them think, “the left isn’t all bad”
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I once sat a bar, having a drunk chat with a guy, who went from your basic “you know what would fix the world? Fluffier dogs!” type talk into “you straight women have it easy, you never have to control yourself when there’s some sexy 14 year old chick around”.
I was far too drunk to give him the proper reaction, but I wasn’t nearly too drunk to get the fuck out.
I find nothing more sus than a man who thinks a desire to commit statutory is normal.
I legit don’t get it, why would you even want a sex partner who is underdeveloped and inexperienced even if there was nothing morally wrong with it? (Which there most DEFINITELY is something morally wrong with it)
Oh jeez… heads up: a lot of racism and very vile unhinged shit being described: (seriously, it’s gonna make your blood boil if you read this, last warning):
So my older brother is a racial supremacist and hates black and brown people.
And I already know what you’re thinking when you hear the term “racist”: “must be a white dude in southern rural US”
No, no no no. We are a family of immigrants. We are non-white. We’re from China.
The first time I heard about this was like sometime around 2017 to 2020. My older brother was complaining about African Migrant workers living in China… a country he no longer has citizenship status in… because he went through the US citizenship process to become a citizen of a multi-racial immigrant country…
So… to reiterate: a non-white immigrant is complaining about other races in his ancestral country that he has no citizenship in… let that sink in…
Literally “White Replacement” Conspiracy Theory, but replace the term “White” with “Han Chinese”.
He complains about ethnic minorities in China “getting special privilages” (aka: “affirmative action”) 🧐
So he dislikes CCP, not because of human rights violations against minorities… no no no, not that, but because CCP is “doing too much to help minorities” (in his view at least, whether or not the CCP actually help minorities in reality is a whole another thing)
He believes there’s a secret plan by the CCP to replace China with African Migrants because of the population crisis… so he thinks the government just wanna fill up the loss of population with random foreigners…
And he calls black people “cockroaches” that “keep spreading too much” by “having too many kids”
But guess what: HE FUCKING COMPLAINS ABOUT TRUMP BEING RACIST AGAINST ASIANS 🤦♂️ fucking irony lmfao (he’s a registered Democrat… I’m pretty sure… supports progressive polities when it comes to wealth, but opposes progressive social policies… so… a social conservative but fiscal liberal??? (is that even a term?)
Dude is so fucking lost into conspiracies, they make my parents look like saints. My parents used to be very prejudiced, but eventually come to be more accepting of multi-culturalism and the idea of living in diversity after spending so much time in the US. And now my mom has to be the one to shut down my brother’s bullshit rhetoric he spews in the livingroom.
Oh, also kinda anti-vax about the Covid vaccine, but somehow okay with a tetnaus shot when he stepped on a nail.
And this is this is also the brother that abused me as a child… constantly fighting me… then want to play with me when bored and has no friends to talk to… then wanna fight me and discard me after he uses me.
Seriously idk why he even became a US Citizen…
The only reason he didn’t vote for trump (or so he says, it’s not like I know what he marked in his ballot) is because he isn’t white, had he been born into a white family, he’d totally vote trump.
I’m so glad, I didn’t end up being brainwashed by those insane beliefs, jesus fucking christ.
No idea where the fuck he got that shit from… so fucking vile…
But then again, he was abusing me when I was around 5 or 6… he used zipties to restrain me when he deemed me “annoying”, played with fire at home, maybe his psycopathy is a gene, maybe a gene that luckily I didn’t get? Random mutation?
Idk… my parents aren’t even this vile in their worst moments, must be a random mutation. Or maybe its environment. Or maybe the internet’s fault.
Every post you make makes me wonder how the fuck you’re still alive, my man
The strong sperm won lol
Weird timeline…
I mean I wonder how humanity even survived coldwar…
Heard of Vasily Arkhipov? Stannislav Petrov? What if they weren’t there. Someone else was in control?
We’s be dead.
How the fuck does humanity even exist. Like dozens of “close calls” jesus christ.
My theory is there are 100s of timelines where humanity nuked itself. 100s of timelines where I was never born, or got kidnapped during that “running away” incident, or got murdered by my brother during a fight, or died of suicide.
Sometimes… I wonder if there’s a “plan” for me… if “god” exists… maybe the universe doesn’t let me die.
Like some pre-destination thing. Like how in time travel shows, someone tries to commit suicide but it fails because they are alive in the future so its impossible to die in the past. Like Steins;Gate with Okabe. Or like Final Destination where deaths have to happem in order…
it’s “not my time to die” yet… so death doesn’t let me die till its time.
Just a theory… 🤷♂️
My theory is there are 100s of timelines where humanity nuked itself. 100s of timelines where I was never born, or got kidnapped during that “running away” incident, or got murdered by my brother during a fight, or died of suicide.
From a quantum theory, wave function collapse perspective, that’s as good a theory as any, and it’s also one that that personally subscribe to.
What do you mean by wave function collapse?
Basically it’s related to the uncertainty principle; the cat is both alive and dead until you look inside the box.
Let’s say i’m about to roll a dice. The result of that dice throw is in a state of superposition until it’s thrown. Meaning that until it is thrown, all results exist. And it’s only when the dice is thrown and the result is observed that the wave function collapses to a number from 1 thru 6.
From there, there are two camps of scientists:
One camp believes that all other superpositions dissipate once the roll is made. So if you roll a one, then the universes in which you rolled a 2 thru 6 just kind of evaporate, for example.
The Second camp that believes that all superpositions exist, and branch off into 6 different universes (one where each number was rolled) and they all continue unaware of the other universes existence (Multiverse theory)
Sounds fairly similar to the logic in the Fermi Paradox, IIRC 🤓🤷🏼♂️
Every post you make makes me wonder how the fuck you’re still alive, my man
Agreed. Seen a lot of his posts around, and Wong Ka Kui feels like an irreplaceable part of Lemmy
It is a common misconception, especially in the US where “white” racism against other groups is so prevalent and extreme, that it is in some way involves or is limited to specific races.
Pretty much every race or ethnic group demonstrates racism against other groups on some level.
Plenty of examples in history where even cultures where everybody is basically the same race, they find reasons to kill each other.
There were hundreds of Mayan city-states, until someone decided to unite them all, and then it was join or die. Sometimes it was just die. They were all the same race, but people like to kill each other, so they invent reasons. We’re weird like that.
Absolutely, humans are pack animals from an evolutionary stand point. Our built in instincts are to form groups for protection.
The leveraging of that for profit/socio-political benefit is the real cancer in this. All of it is despicable, but that’s a root cause. 🤌🏼
I just want you to know, I hate having to upvote your comment.
Only an American would think racism is a white person only thing. Western racism is nothing in comparison to racism in Asia.
Western racism is nothing in comparison to racism in Asia.
Yeah yelling insults or whatever is way worse than systematically exterminating many groups of people.
You mean because thats not happening in Asia right now?
Well there went your credibility
Yeah, the west would never murder 6 million people out of racial hatred in under 4 years.
He’s originally Chinese not american, and its fine to find it more common for whites to be racists, because in my experience, they are
“Stop thinking so much”
- random professor walking by me
